You might have noticed the new banner over there to the left or you might not have but I would like to draw your attention there now. This is the Charter for Compassion it was a wish of last years TED prize winner Karen Armstrong, yesterday after a year of planning and compiling of stories it was unveiled to the world!
"The principle of compassion lies at the heart of all religious, ethical and spiritual traditions, calling us always to treat all others as we wish to be treated ourselves. Compassion impels us to work tirelessly to alleviate the suffering of our fellow creatures, to dethrone ourselves from the centre of our world and put another there, and to honour the inviolable sanctity of every single human being, treating everybody, without exception, with absolute justice, equity and respect.
It is also necessary in both public and private life to refrain consistently and empathically from inflicting pain. To act or speak violently out of spite, chauvinism, or self-interest, to impoverish, exploit or deny basic rights to anybody, and to incite hatred by denigrating others—even our enemies—is a denial of our common humanity. We acknowledge that we have failed to live compassionately and that some have even increased the sum of human misery in the name of religion.
We therefore call upon all men and women ~ to restore compassion to the centre of morality and religion ~ to return to the ancient principle that any interpretation of scripture that breeds violence, hatred or disdain is illegitimate ~ to ensure that youth are given accurate and respectful information about other traditions, religions and cultures ~ to encourage a positive appreciation of cultural and religious diversity ~ to cultivate an informed empathy with the suffering of all human beings—even those regarded as enemies.
We urgently need to make compassion a clear, luminous and dynamic force in our polarized world. Rooted in a principled determination to transcend selfishness, compassion can break down political, dogmatic, ideological and religious boundaries. Born of our deep interdependence, compassion is essential to human relationships and to a fulfilled humanity. It is the path to enlightenment, and indispensible to the creation of a just economy and a peaceful global community."
Please support and affirm the Charter by adding your name to the growing list of affirmers by visiting the website.
10563 have affirmed so far, including;
His Holiness the Dalai Lama
Her Majesty Queen Noor of Jordan- Chair, King Hussein Foundation
Paul Simon- Musician
Archbishop Emeritus Desmond Mpilo Tutu
Sir Ken Robinson- Author
Deepak Chopra- Author
Sheikh Ali Gomaa- Grand Mufti of Egypt
Professor Candido Mendes- Secretary General, Académie de la Latinité
Goldie Hawn- Actor
Dr. Abdul Sattar Edhi- Founder, Edhi Foundation
and ME!
Now I don't consider myself a religious person, but I do try to live ethically and I am spiritual. Above all though I believe in the Golden Rule, especially in light of the recent election. Treat others as you, yourself want to be treated. Why is that so hard for some to grasp. Won't you join me in this amazing call for compassion?
Friday, November 13, 2009
Thursday, November 12, 2009
todays no stop song
Sorry all, but it has been in my head all day and now it is your turn;
Check out how he is ROCKING that mesh sweater!! OMG did we really think those were cool? And the dumbbells WOW! The sad thing is this song reached #2 on the Billboard Hot 100 in 1989.
Here I will even included the lyrics for you.
Cash cold that's what I need
These bill collectors they ring my phone
They bother me when I'm not at home
Ain't go no time to be fooling round
Feet touch the floors and I get on down, you see
Chorus:
I want money lots and lots of money
I want the pie in the sky
I want money lots and lots of money
So don't be asking me why
I wanna be rich oh
I wanna be rich
I wanna be rich oh
I wanna be rich
For a little love peace and happiness
I want my cake wanna eat it too
I want the stars and the silver moon
I spend my money of lottery
My favorite number is 1 2 3, you see
Chorus
Every way rich
Love peace and happiness
I want all the things that lovers do
A pocketful of dreams come true
Everything you can not find
Want you by my side?
That keep you satisfied and rich
Here is what you gonna do
Say oh I say uh uh
Got to be baby
I just wanna be rich
I just wanna be, just wanna be
Cause baby
Chorus
Be rich I wanna be rich
I know what I mean baby
Everyday and every way
Play baby there is lots for everyone
Check out how he is ROCKING that mesh sweater!! OMG did we really think those were cool? And the dumbbells WOW! The sad thing is this song reached #2 on the Billboard Hot 100 in 1989.
Here I will even included the lyrics for you.
Cash cold that's what I need
These bill collectors they ring my phone
They bother me when I'm not at home
Ain't go no time to be fooling round
Feet touch the floors and I get on down, you see
Chorus:
I want money lots and lots of money
I want the pie in the sky
I want money lots and lots of money
So don't be asking me why
I wanna be rich oh
I wanna be rich
I wanna be rich oh
I wanna be rich
For a little love peace and happiness
I want my cake wanna eat it too
I want the stars and the silver moon
I spend my money of lottery
My favorite number is 1 2 3, you see
Chorus
Every way rich
Love peace and happiness
I want all the things that lovers do
A pocketful of dreams come true
Everything you can not find
Want you by my side?
That keep you satisfied and rich
Here is what you gonna do
Say oh I say uh uh
Got to be baby
I just wanna be rich
I just wanna be, just wanna be
Cause baby
Chorus
Be rich I wanna be rich
I know what I mean baby
Everyday and every way
Play baby there is lots for everyone
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
Mom update
First I would like to thank both of you that now read my blog for the kind thoughts and well wishes, for her recovery and my sanity. She called last night and was up and walking during the day. Sitting in a chair and eating normally. The doctor who preformed her hysterectomy told heron the Friday that she saw her in the ICU she didn't have much hope of her making it. She then said that she was very proud of her and called her a trooper.
Mom asked if she was going to be able to leave at some point and the Dr. asked her well when do you think you will be ready to go home? Mom answered let's shoot for the end of the week see how things are at that point and then decide.
So she could be back at home by this weekend. She need to have a ramp built on their trailer and the home health care needs to be approved but the hospital social workers see no issue with that. So we will see.
Now the question becomes what do I do now? See I have been trying to distance myself from her for a few years now. I don't need the stress in my life that she inflicts with her emotional abuse. Hello she has never in my lifetime weighed less then 320 pounds, (though some of it is not her fault a diet of Mtn. Dew and Ring Dings don't help) she is always commenting not just on my size but plain out talks about how FAT I am! No I am not small, I NEVER have been there are NO small women in our gene-pool. But jeez the way the pot calls the kettle is absolutely asinine. She may have FINALLY come to terms that my being a big old dyke is NOT a phase after just 17 years! However she hates Dawn nearly as much as Dawn hates her. Her newly ex-husband and I can't stand each other, but he isn't going anywhere they did it for the money(don't ask, that is another post entirely).
So what do I do, now that she has had her brush with death and all of us were there she is going to want us all back in her life all of the time, and I am afraid.
Mom asked if she was going to be able to leave at some point and the Dr. asked her well when do you think you will be ready to go home? Mom answered let's shoot for the end of the week see how things are at that point and then decide.
So she could be back at home by this weekend. She need to have a ramp built on their trailer and the home health care needs to be approved but the hospital social workers see no issue with that. So we will see.
Now the question becomes what do I do now? See I have been trying to distance myself from her for a few years now. I don't need the stress in my life that she inflicts with her emotional abuse. Hello she has never in my lifetime weighed less then 320 pounds, (though some of it is not her fault a diet of Mtn. Dew and Ring Dings don't help) she is always commenting not just on my size but plain out talks about how FAT I am! No I am not small, I NEVER have been there are NO small women in our gene-pool. But jeez the way the pot calls the kettle is absolutely asinine. She may have FINALLY come to terms that my being a big old dyke is NOT a phase after just 17 years! However she hates Dawn nearly as much as Dawn hates her. Her newly ex-husband and I can't stand each other, but he isn't going anywhere they did it for the money(don't ask, that is another post entirely).
So what do I do, now that she has had her brush with death and all of us were there she is going to want us all back in her life all of the time, and I am afraid.
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
bad day
Two days ago Dawn wrote about how grateful she was to have me. Today I am not sure that she is as grateful. I was pretty sure this morning that if I went to Fail Blog that there would be a picture of me in my tie-dyed flannel pajamas with EPIC FAIL stamped across my forehead.
To start things off I awoke at 5dark:thirty with a migraine. I got up took some meds, put my sleep mask/blindfold thing on to ward of the increasing daylight, and crawled back in bed. Dawn awoke a few hours later and got up I knew she had planned some quiet reflection time this morning so I figured it was safe for me to stay in bed so I did. When I did crawl out of bed at around 9 she was ready to begin her day. She asked if I had done something yesterday and I had not. When she asked why I told her that 1. I had asked her to do it and 2. the deadline was yesterday and by the time I had a chance to do it I would not have had a chance to turn it in.
Well, I am not even sure what happened after that but I know she was PISSED. She said I've got to go, stomped out of the house slamming the door without a kiss or anything. Then she peeled out backing out of her spot, peeled it again pulling forward from where she had backed and a THIRD time when she hit the gas to leave the the driveway. I was crying before the door slammed, I felt worse then shit.
So I look and a friend is on so I chat with her here is how that started;
By 1PM we were both leaving the house to run errands we had not screamed at each other and she apologized for losing her temper like that and being a grumpus head in general. I apologized that I had not done the thing that started it all this morning but that I really needed her help with it or I wouldn't have asked. We went our separate ways to do our separate tasks.
As I was coming home I nearly hit a big buck with a bum back leg. He was next door and came into our yard once he got out of my way. I saw him walk across the back yard, I ran to get a flashlight as I could no longer see him in the thicket. I went back out and could hear him but we couldn't find him, even with a cop and the landlord. Oh well we have some venison in the freezer already a friend's dad got his deer and she gave us some of the meat he had given her.
Tonight things are back to normal. I did the task I didn't think I could do, all by myself. I also did a couple loads of laundry and of dishes. All in all I am still not sure why she loves me so.
To start things off I awoke at 5dark:thirty with a migraine. I got up took some meds, put my sleep mask/blindfold thing on to ward of the increasing daylight, and crawled back in bed. Dawn awoke a few hours later and got up I knew she had planned some quiet reflection time this morning so I figured it was safe for me to stay in bed so I did. When I did crawl out of bed at around 9 she was ready to begin her day. She asked if I had done something yesterday and I had not. When she asked why I told her that 1. I had asked her to do it and 2. the deadline was yesterday and by the time I had a chance to do it I would not have had a chance to turn it in.
Well, I am not even sure what happened after that but I know she was PISSED. She said I've got to go, stomped out of the house slamming the door without a kiss or anything. Then she peeled out backing out of her spot, peeled it again pulling forward from where she had backed and a THIRD time when she hit the gas to leave the the driveway. I was crying before the door slammed, I felt worse then shit.
So I look and a friend is on so I chat with her here is how that started;
10:58 AM me: hey
L: hey what's up?
10:59 AM me: I suck
L: oh dear.
11:00 AM me: I think I need to leave Dawn that she would be better off without me, she just peeled out of the yard
I don't know what to do
11:01 AM L: um.
me: I keep fucking up
R: sounds like you're frustrated and depressed.
me: she is soo mad at me
11:02 AM we have been fighting for two days every minute that we are together is spent screaming
L: gah!
what's going on?
L talked me off the ledge, I didn't pack my shit. I continued to sort through the bs with L until Dawn came home then I didn't want another reason for her to be upset so I got offline. During the chat I call the place and they say that it wasn't a deadline more a GUIDEline and that I have until just before thanksgiving to get it in.By 1PM we were both leaving the house to run errands we had not screamed at each other and she apologized for losing her temper like that and being a grumpus head in general. I apologized that I had not done the thing that started it all this morning but that I really needed her help with it or I wouldn't have asked. We went our separate ways to do our separate tasks.
As I was coming home I nearly hit a big buck with a bum back leg. He was next door and came into our yard once he got out of my way. I saw him walk across the back yard, I ran to get a flashlight as I could no longer see him in the thicket. I went back out and could hear him but we couldn't find him, even with a cop and the landlord. Oh well we have some venison in the freezer already a friend's dad got his deer and she gave us some of the meat he had given her.
Tonight things are back to normal. I did the task I didn't think I could do, all by myself. I also did a couple loads of laundry and of dishes. All in all I am still not sure why she loves me so.
Monday, November 9, 2009
serene places
Okay so this blogging everyday is really a difficult task. I just am not as witty as I need to be to do this apparently. So I am going to give you a picture of one of my favorite spots.
This is a tiny brook that runs under the Acadia National Park Loop Road. I sit on that little gravelly beach on the far side and cast my line. I cast to my left (the right side of the photo) and let it slowly float downstream and under the bridge. I am merely two feet away from the road with its cars, trucks and RV's from Connecticut, New York and Minnesota.
However none of them know that I am there. I am alone in my only little world, it is just one of the many wonders here in my backyard. Come visit us sometime.
This is a tiny brook that runs under the Acadia National Park Loop Road. I sit on that little gravelly beach on the far side and cast my line. I cast to my left (the right side of the photo) and let it slowly float downstream and under the bridge. I am merely two feet away from the road with its cars, trucks and RV's from Connecticut, New York and Minnesota.However none of them know that I am there. I am alone in my only little world, it is just one of the many wonders here in my backyard. Come visit us sometime.
Sunday, November 8, 2009
Stolen Meme
Yes I stole it from Daily Meme's Sunday Steal and my friend Leo;
1. What is the color of your toothbrush? Purple & White
2. Name one person who made you smile today. My sweetheart
3. What were you doing at 8am this morning? sleeping/warding off a migraine (success!)
4. What were you doing 45 minutes ago? watching Monday Night Football and eating homemade sushi with my sweetie
5. What is your favorite candy bar? 100 Grand
6. Have you ever been to a strip club? Yes the LGBT bar I was a bouncer at was next door to one and our DJ was engaged to one of the ladies and I would go over and watch her dance then walk her to the bar after her performance.
7. What is the last thing you said aloud? Hey look at what I found on Daily Meme!
8. What is your favorite ice cream? Ben and Jerry's Coffee Coffee Buzz Buzz Buzz which is sadly only available in Scoop Shops and the closest one of those to us is 100 miles away :(
9. What was the last thing you had to drink? tap water fresh from our well
10. Do you like your wallet? not really but it is functional
11. What was the last thing you ate? homemade sushi!
12. Have you bought any new clothing items this week? nope can't tell you the last time I bought new clothing
13. The last sporting event you watched? I am sort-of watching MNF over my shoulder
14. What is your favorite flavor of popcorn?Act II movie theater butter
15. Who is the last person you sent a text message to?: my plan doesn't have texting
16. Ever go camping? ever?? Yes recently?? No been since July of '06
17. Do you take vitamins daily? No
18. Do you go to church every Sunday? No
19. Do you have a tan? still a bit of a farmer tan but that isn't saying much
20. Do you prefer Chinese food over pizza? I have Chinese more often but like pizza better
21. Do you drink your soda with a straw? Only if it is served in a paper cup
22. What did your last text message say? see #15 above
23. What are you doing tomorrow? installing a deer fence (to keep deer from eating the woman's plants), a bit of household shopping
24. Favorite color? Blue or purple
25. Look to your left; what do you see? the cat taking a bath
26. What color is your watch? I haven't worn it in a couple weeks, maybe black?
27. What do you think of when you hear “Australia”? of a cute surfer girl I know...
28. Would you strip for money? doubt it
29. Do you go in a fast food place or just hit the drive thru? Usually in so I can use the restroom too.
30. What is your favorite number? Not sure I have one
31. Who’s the last person you talked to on the phone? Toby
32. Any plans today? Today??? It is 11:39PM I MIGHT make it to bed before tomorrow.
33. In how many states have you lived? Two
34. Biggest annoyance right now? having lost my right to marry in my home state.
35. Last song listened to? does the MNF theme count? Probably not, so it was With a Little Help From My Friends
36. Can you say the alphabet backwards? yes in about 3 seconds
37. Do you have a maid service clean your house? Um, I WISH!!
38. Favorite pair of shoes you wear all the time? Reebok sneakers (the same ones the NFL refs wear) very comfy :)
39. Are you jealous of anyone? not at the moment
40. Is anyone jealous of you? who cares
41. Do you love anyone? but of course
42. Do any of your friends have children? Many of them do, yes
43. What do you usually do during the day? FACEBOOK!!!
44. Do you hate anyone that you know right now? Not anyone I have ever met (Sarah, Ann, & Rush come to mind though)
45. Do you use the word hello daily? I don't think I do I am a "Hey" person
46. What color is your car? Red
47. What size wedding ring do you wear? I am not allowed to marry so I don't have a wedding ring, my commitment/promise band is a 9 I think.
48. Are you thinking about someone right now? Not really
49. Have you ever been to Six Flags? Nope
50. How did you get your worst scar? surgery, to remove a cyst on my left wrist I don't scar easily so incidental ones have gone away.
1. What is the color of your toothbrush? Purple & White
2. Name one person who made you smile today. My sweetheart
3. What were you doing at 8am this morning? sleeping/warding off a migraine (success!)
4. What were you doing 45 minutes ago? watching Monday Night Football and eating homemade sushi with my sweetie
5. What is your favorite candy bar? 100 Grand
6. Have you ever been to a strip club? Yes the LGBT bar I was a bouncer at was next door to one and our DJ was engaged to one of the ladies and I would go over and watch her dance then walk her to the bar after her performance.
7. What is the last thing you said aloud? Hey look at what I found on Daily Meme!
8. What is your favorite ice cream? Ben and Jerry's Coffee Coffee Buzz Buzz Buzz which is sadly only available in Scoop Shops and the closest one of those to us is 100 miles away :(
9. What was the last thing you had to drink? tap water fresh from our well
10. Do you like your wallet? not really but it is functional
11. What was the last thing you ate? homemade sushi!
12. Have you bought any new clothing items this week? nope can't tell you the last time I bought new clothing
13. The last sporting event you watched? I am sort-of watching MNF over my shoulder
14. What is your favorite flavor of popcorn?Act II movie theater butter
15. Who is the last person you sent a text message to?: my plan doesn't have texting
16. Ever go camping? ever?? Yes recently?? No been since July of '06
17. Do you take vitamins daily? No
18. Do you go to church every Sunday? No
19. Do you have a tan? still a bit of a farmer tan but that isn't saying much
20. Do you prefer Chinese food over pizza? I have Chinese more often but like pizza better
21. Do you drink your soda with a straw? Only if it is served in a paper cup
22. What did your last text message say? see #15 above
23. What are you doing tomorrow? installing a deer fence (to keep deer from eating the woman's plants), a bit of household shopping
24. Favorite color? Blue or purple
25. Look to your left; what do you see? the cat taking a bath
26. What color is your watch? I haven't worn it in a couple weeks, maybe black?
27. What do you think of when you hear “Australia”? of a cute surfer girl I know...
28. Would you strip for money? doubt it
29. Do you go in a fast food place or just hit the drive thru? Usually in so I can use the restroom too.
30. What is your favorite number? Not sure I have one
31. Who’s the last person you talked to on the phone? Toby
32. Any plans today? Today??? It is 11:39PM I MIGHT make it to bed before tomorrow.
33. In how many states have you lived? Two
34. Biggest annoyance right now? having lost my right to marry in my home state.
35. Last song listened to? does the MNF theme count? Probably not, so it was With a Little Help From My Friends
36. Can you say the alphabet backwards? yes in about 3 seconds
37. Do you have a maid service clean your house? Um, I WISH!!
38. Favorite pair of shoes you wear all the time? Reebok sneakers (the same ones the NFL refs wear) very comfy :)
39. Are you jealous of anyone? not at the moment
40. Is anyone jealous of you? who cares
41. Do you love anyone? but of course
42. Do any of your friends have children? Many of them do, yes
43. What do you usually do during the day? FACEBOOK!!!
44. Do you hate anyone that you know right now? Not anyone I have ever met (Sarah, Ann, & Rush come to mind though)
45. Do you use the word hello daily? I don't think I do I am a "Hey" person
46. What color is your car? Red
47. What size wedding ring do you wear? I am not allowed to marry so I don't have a wedding ring, my commitment/promise band is a 9 I think.
48. Are you thinking about someone right now? Not really
49. Have you ever been to Six Flags? Nope
50. How did you get your worst scar? surgery, to remove a cyst on my left wrist I don't scar easily so incidental ones have gone away.
Saturday, November 7, 2009
a plea
Have you all written, emailed and called your senators and congresspersons asking them to support Health Care Reform??? If you haven't now is the time and make sure you let them know how you feel about the anti-choice Stupak amendment here is the CNN link.
If you happen to be one of the few lucky people in this country with a good health care plan congratulations! I am a person who hasn't had ANY health care plan in nearly a year and no way to pay for it because my health won't let me work. Not that I could ever get insurance at this point because my list of pre-existing conditions start with being a woman and go down-hill from there; depressed - check, asthmatic - check, rape survivor- check, morbid obesity - check, ex-smoker - check, suicidal tendencies - check, spondylitis - check, at least I haven't been able to afford therapy so that won't count against me.
If you have insurance that works great, but do me a favor and think about those of us that are lest fortunate.
If you happen to be one of the few lucky people in this country with a good health care plan congratulations! I am a person who hasn't had ANY health care plan in nearly a year and no way to pay for it because my health won't let me work. Not that I could ever get insurance at this point because my list of pre-existing conditions start with being a woman and go down-hill from there; depressed - check, asthmatic - check, rape survivor- check, morbid obesity - check, ex-smoker - check, suicidal tendencies - check, spondylitis - check, at least I haven't been able to afford therapy so that won't count against me.
If you have insurance that works great, but do me a favor and think about those of us that are lest fortunate.
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